This Guy Really Doesn't Want to Partake in His Fiancée's Family's Strange Wedding Night 'Sex Ritual'

May 29 2020, Updated 2:Thirteen p.m. ET

In the 2019 horror-comedy Ready or Not, Grace marries the person she's in love with who also occurs to be a a part of a wealthy family with a ugly wedding night ritual they have taken part in for generations. Grace should pick a sport to play, and, since she chose Hide and Seek, she should disguise while the remainder of his family tries to chase her down and kill her, and if she survives till crack of dawn, she's gained the game.

This post on Reddit's "Am I the A-hole?" comes manner too just about the plot of that movie for convenience. In it, OP explains that he is intended to get married to his fiancée early next 12 months, and that she has a huge, very involved family.

Generally, he loves her family. But something bizarre has been happening since they have gotten engaged. "My GF's cousins sometimes make jokes about our wedding night," he writes. "It's weird for them to joke about it since I'm pretty sure her family is aware we've slept together before since we share a bed at holiday gatherings and vacations."

A few nights in the past, he and his fiancée had been discussing wedding plans and brainstorming concepts when she dropped the bomb that they wouldn't "need a bridal suite right away." She defined that she wants them to stay at her oldsters' area the night of the wedding as an alternative of the very great lodge wherein they are getting married. 

Although OP used to be OK with that, it was transparent that there used to be something else she wasn't telling him. So he driven her. And finally, the truth got here out. 

There's it appears a "really old tradition in her family on the wedding night." He explains, "The husband and wife go into the master bedroom together and they are supposed to 'consummate' the marriage. The rest of the family are waiting outside the door so they can applaud them and cheer when they come out. Then a piece of the bed sheet is cut off and sewn into a big tapestry my GF's mother owns."

OP, of course, freaked out on the prospect of getting to have sex with his new wife for the primary time in her folks' bedroom (probably??) whilst they and other family members stand outdoor and concentrate. His fiancée said that if he actually felt uncomfortable, they did not need to really do it; they may simply faux. 

But that's still truly bizarre! He informed her he would now not take part in that tradition beneath any circumstance. He knows that his fiancée has been speaking to her folks because his MIL-to-be texted him announcing that he doesn't "understand the importance of family and tradition" and that this custom has been round longer than he's been alive.

This is exactly the explanation they will have to imagine, um, giving up this tradition. It's so strange and out of date and the tapestry factor is beyond creepy. 

Reddit customers found the custom similarly antiquated. "Tell them you'll do it in return for a dowry of 100 head of cattle, a white stallion, and a tract of arable land," one commenter joked.

Some commenters gave more severe recommendation. "When you hear stories about in-laws causing stress to a marriage, it is almost always about a failure to respect normal boundaries," one person wrote. "If you go along with this, it will only be the beginning...

"My recommendation is to percentage data with your fiancée on what a bedding ceremony is, and what it way. Its emphasis is on virginity and the implication that the girl is nugatory if she can not display it. 

"I would talk about boundaries and how you and your fiancée are to be a team of two, not minority members of a committee. Don't go to the family and say you will not do it — SHE needs to be the one to do that. She needs to show that she will align with you against them when necessary."

Some excellent advice there. This actually seems like a Ready or Not situation in the making, and I am hoping for OP's sake it ends with a lot much less violence. But I additionally hope it ends with out him having his wedding night mattress sheet sewn into a giant, disgusting tapestry.

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